Truth Matters

The truth eventually emerges. Regardless of skillful deceit and the amount of time and manipulation to manufacture the lie.  Sometimes it only takes someone brave enough to champion the truth.  Sometimes the truth is revealed in a series of puzzle pieces over time.  All the time, it requires an audience that is ready to embrace the truth, regardless of the ugly underbelly that may coexist with the lie.

Once the truth emerges, it is sometimes followed by a long period of silence.  A myriad of questions unfold.  Will anyone believe me?  Is it worth the stress of bringing it up?  Should bygones be bygones?  Does the perpetrator of the lie still have the power to make my life miserable? Are the people who were most damaged by the lie still alive?  Does the truth really matter after so much time?  Is the damage irreparable?

The truth may bring up painful memories or challenge the very basis of the life that you have led.  The lie may be fabricated to save face for a poor choice or assume power or undermine a perceived enemy.  The problem is that there is never really a solid basis for lying.  Lies create a power imbalance and fostered the anger of those who know the truth but feel powerless.  With any lie, there is at least one loser. Sometimes it is the person who lives under the injustice of the lie.  Sometimes it is the moral integrity of the liar and those who choose to look away from the truth.  Sometimes it is the physical, emotional and financial damage that results from the perpetuation of the lie.

There was never an upside to removing children from their homes and placing them in church run residential schools.  As a mother, my heart breaks when I consider the pain.  The premise was based on a notion of the cultural supremacy of the people arriving from Europe and the desire for power.  Although Indigenous cultures had existed for thousands of years in Canada, there was an assumption that the people with the weapons and power could decide on the best way for everyone to live or not live.  Residential schools were the fastest, most expedient way “to remove the Indian from the child” – the proclamation of the day and the instrument utilized to attempt to decimate Indigenous culture in Canada.

The process of justification took many the form of several lies, over many years: Indigenous spirituality was not a pathway to God.  European education was superior to learning Indigenous ways of knowing.   Maintaining family ties, culture and language was not best interest of the Indigenous child.  As with most lies, it is in everyone’s best interest to stand on the side of truth.  As Canadians, we demonstrate maturity as a country when we are able to look back in our history and identify poor policy choices and human rights abuses.

Residential schools were an example of how poor policy can be implemented and continued despite  the fact it is fundamentally wrong. Indigenous children removed from their families suffered.  The communities who had no power to stop the removal of their children suffered.  The people perpetuating the lie suffered the fate of any liar.  As a country we failed to move forward with integrity as defenders of social justice.

The Truth and Reconciliation Commission has been profound.  Telling the truth has been embraced as something that matters in our country.  The reconciliation is about people being ready to hear the truth and accept it.  It’s not about accepting blame.  It’s not about living with shame.  It is about the realization that in the earliest years of our history, it  was decided that Canada was better off without embracing the pre-existing Indigenous culture. It was a lie.  The reconciliation comes in recognizing that we are better off with the rich fabric of all the cultures that come together to form Canada.  The hope lives in our ability to listen,  to learn and to move forward together with integrity.

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Trump’s USA

It is hard not to reflect on Trump’s U.S.A.   I drove back over the border to Canada and could hardly stifle doing a happy dance.   Is a decidedly different U.S.A. with Trump at the helm.  The promise and hope that accompanied Obama’s election has been obliterated and the despair and fear is palpable.   We entered the United States at the Peace Arch crossing and were promptly subjected to a “random” comprehensive search, along with many other people, most whom did not have white skin or spoke another language.  We were herded along with others receiving various degrees of scrutiny by American officials.  The long lines and indifference to making people wait is apparently here to stay.  Traffic was gridlocked around most cities en route to the Sierra Nevadas along the I-5 and then to L.A. with road work “to serve us better”, too many cars and a lack of infrastructure to provide public transit.

True to our reputation, we are friendly Canadians, and friendly Americans gravitated towards us.  We had fun times with neighbours at the Silver Lake cabin in the Sierra Nevadas.  Shared camaraderie in Ernie’s tackle shop and in the Sierra Inn in June Lake.  Talked “education shop” with a hiker (aka teacher from Oakland) en route to Gem Lake.  Had a blast in the mountains with my older sister’s family as we navigated through our #GrantFire crisis that threatened possible evacuation from our family cabin.  Talked books with the librarian in the Gull Lake Library.  Dashed down to L.A. to visit with more family.  Learned more about my Dad’s life.  Navigated waves in Malibu with our younger nephews.  Had great conversation in the hot tub in Medford.  Yet the news, coffee shop conversations, bumper stickers, billboards and ways people treat each other show a dark underlying current of self-serving interests and unkindness.

One billboard read “REAL” Christians follow the teachings of Jesus.  The love, kindness and a lack of a judgemental stance forming my understanding of Jesus was not the vibe coming off this massive and somewhat threatening sign with the link to “fire and brimstone” rules to follow on the internet or else. The NAACP (National Association for the Advancement of Coloured People), the civil rights organization formed in 1909, issued the first ever travel advisory and warns of “looming danger” for people of colour traveling through Missouri after Trump’s buddy, Governor Greitens, passed Senate Bill 43 – accurately hailed as a Jim Crow Bill, rolling back human rights and facilitating legal discrimination.  Deadly, race- fueled clashes in Charlottesville, Virginia unfold and Trump is unable to condemn neo-Nazis, skinheads and members of the Ku Klux Klan protesters for their hate propaganda instigating death, racial hatred and mayhem.  People joke and sport bumper stickers saying “Black lives matter to who?’ or disrespect the people who work for them with talk of building a wall or questioning which children are entitled to health care or education.  Trump stickers have dollar signs on either side of his name.  What are the lessons American children are taking from this?  Who do they want to be in the world?  What do they want it to look like.  It is quite telling that the white supremacist group Vanguard America target a university campus to recruit. This seems the polar opposite of the open mindedness and lofy ideals that we expect higher education to inspire.

The basis of the Trump election platform was vilifying “the other” and framing blatant lies as “alternative truth”.  When your quest for power is fueled by racism, misogyny, hate, greed, fear mongering and lies, then that is the basis for your term in office.  For any student of history, this is quite disturbing and comparisons to WWII Germany are not out of line.  Hitler’s speech in the early 1920’s was titled “Why Are We Anti-Semitic?”  People knew exactly who they were voting for and facilitated his actions.  By the end of WWII, 6 million Jews had been killed in Nazi Germany.  This was far too many people to have been killed by the SS.  A population was catalysed to view their Jewish neighbours as sub-human by government leaders with hate discourse, legislation and propaganda.  History has already taught us this lesson.  Our job is to not let history repeat itself.

How we act and what we say defines who we are.  Honesty matters.  Respect matters.  Tolerance is not enough.  Tolerance indicates we are enduring something or someone who is a pain in the neck.  It leaves the “tolerant” one feeling put upon and the recipient of her benevolence feeling embarrassed and insecure. It is true that change and differences and honesty can cause a degree of stress in our lives.  However when we choose to learn from a different perspectives and ways of being, tell the truth, admit mistakes, ask for forgiveness and look for commonalities of our humanity, we open up the opportunity to grow and learn.  When we choose to care about people’s feelings, forgive mistakes and give rather than take, we open our hearts and minds and allow love, respect and reciprocity to be the outcome.  Yes, I’m talking about living in harmony and with generosity towards our families, our neighbours, our fellow citizens and within the global community.  It seems like we should have evolved enough to embrace this by now.

Trump’s latest strategy seems to be uniting the masses by going after an outside target – Kim Jong Un – after all he’s been is a movie and is recognizable by even the uneducated.  It is something we have seen before.  Saddam Hussein’s weapons of mass destruction were proven not to exist but the propaganda united Americans to the point that some Americans still believe.  As CIA Director Mike Pompeo has clearly stated, there is no imminent threat from North Korea, in direct contradiction to Trump’s war mongering.  It seems “making America great again,” boils down to waving a big stick.  It feels like haunting foreshadowing of a dark time in global history that we’ll be trying to understand long after the fact.

Many elementary school students will tell you that bullying through violence, humiliation and exclusion is wrong.  They will also tell you that lying to create a reality more to your liking and creating “alternative truths” are both the same thing.  They will be able to explain strategies for solving problems.  They can tell you why the United Nations Universal Declaration of Rights and Freedoms was written and signed in 1959 by so many nations striving to avoid a repeat of past wrongs.  I’m looking forward to going back to school and talking to children about who they want to be in the world and what they want our world to look like.  I want to talk about the ideals of honesty, generosity, integrity and inclusiveness.  It gives me hope.